6 Ways To Grab A Moment Alone, When You Are Not Alone

6 Ways To Grab A Moment Alone, When You're Not Alone. Some days it just feels impossible to get a moment to yourself, to catch a tiny breather. And most days it feels like that’s just what you need, just that tiny second to yourself to catch you breath and to let your mind unwind a little. And as always by YOU, I mean ME, I’m just always assuming we are on the same page — which we sorta are, cause you’re here and so are my words.
As a parent I just need a breather, sometimes.
As an urban dweller, I need some space from time to time (slash everyday).
And from working and living in a small space, I need “just a second” to my lonesome almost daily.
Sure I practice yoga, and that is my sanity saver but still as the day rolls on “moments alone” to get myself back on track are still often needed.

I realize I don’t always get those official alone moments and I’m pretty positive you don’t either (same page and all). But I also realized there are a few things I do to squeak moments in when I can, even the half assed type of seconds alone can be pretty sweet.


Favorite Things / 10

Rope Cross Body Bag SUMMER KITCHEN SINK BAG – Kitchen sink because it holds everything, PLUS the kitchen sink (probably, but not literally). It’s a giant circle bottom rope bag, that I have been hooked on since it came my way. I’m able to toss everything, all the kids junk, our days snacks, my camera and my usual bag stuff — it almost feels like my magician bag, cause I just keep pulling stuff out of it. Plus it looks really nice and beachy. It was a happy surprise that will most likely be my favorite summer bag (it also doubles as a pretty gym bag for Goodlife dates or of course my everyday yoga classes). Also birks, most comfortable/best all around sandal — pick a style any style (so many styles).

wireless mouse MAGICAL MOUSE – If you have a laptop you better get yourself a wireless mouse, apple or not (but apple). For the longest time I used my track-pad exclusively, what a wonderful thing to do if you desperately want to get carpel tunnel. Then I switched to a wireless mouse and magically all my wrist issues disappeared, I’m that Mom telling everyone with a laptop they should get one — so might as well put my Mom face on here too. Also, if you are ever in Toronto, Propeller Coffee is so…two thumbs up.

soyoung-bag OUR SNACK PACK – It’s a lunch/cooler bag, but since I claimed it as mine and I don’t actually pack a lunch (yet, I will when I start renting a desk in a shared studio space — excited!) I use MY lunch bag for weekend snacks. I like it a lot, it keeps all our food separate from all other things in my bag, and it keeps everything cool, it’s this perfect purse sized cooler bag that’s easy to carry. It also fits in my kitchen sink summer bag, which is pretty great.

nars-red-nailpolish PARK SIDE PEDICURE – The ultimate of luxury, this is true blue pampering right here. While the kids took turns playing TBall, I brought out my current favorite nail polish (Nars Dovima) and gave myself a quick half assed, pedicure. You gotta take tiny moments to yourself, whenever they are available. And for some reason red is my go to this season, probably because everything else in my wardrobe is monochromatic a pop of something felt needed.

jean shorts GOLD STAR SUMMER SHORTS – After searching around for really good denim shorts for (what felt like) hours in a mall, barf. The mall is literally the last place on earth I’d like to be, but it was worth it for these. I’ll probably never take them off all summer, so be prepared to see me wearing them in every single picture.

facial-cleansing-oil FACE CLEANSING OIL – Say what? Oil to clean your face? It’s a little crazy I agree, but afterwards it feels a whole lot more like magic. My face has never ever been cleaner and blackheads, those babies just got washed away. I also clearly love Leaves of Trees, so far their all natural deodorant and this Facial Cleansing Oil are on everyday rotation. Since I had to google how to use oil for face cleaning, I’ll just link to that article so you can read from someone who has more experience than just a few weeks.


That Summer Feeling

long weekend vibes beach carrying throwing rocks beach side fun what's your summer bucket list? #summerbucketlist The long weekend in May always has me itching for summer days, basically just more days like long weekend days. And now that the long weekend is over, oh hello Tuesday that feels like a Monday! I’m thinking maybe the best way to get over this long weekend hangover is to just go on and look ahead to summer — since we are all already looking that way anyways, am I right?

I like to be rather anal retentive about our summer plans, our summer bucket list usually gets entered into my sunrise calendar (best calendar app by the way) so I have a loose plan for each-and-every summer day. That way my anal retentive brain can a)make sure the bucket list items actually get checked off, b)everyday is just equally awesome and c)I can figure out how to fit in my work schedule, in-between all the fun somewhere.

I added “make summer bucket list” to my weeks plans, but thought I’d ask you all what’s on your list — off the top of your head! I can tell you that tan my bright like the sunlight legs and feet will be on that list and probably some more rock throwing and beach hanging, because well obviously.

What’s on your summer bucket list? Shoot me with your ideas!

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Those Times When You Only Have One Free Hand

sandwich hands | when you have one free hand to hold 99.9 times out of ten (I know my math is a tad flawed) I don’t always have two free hands to hold my kids two little hands. There are many times in the day when the moment calls for me to hold my kids hands; when stepping into the subway, crossing a busy street, but we live in the city so in-reality “many moments” mostly means all moments. There are also many times in the day when the same moment leaves me with only one free hand, sometimes no free hands but usually I can wiggle at least one free when I’m stuck. Does this happen to you?
My bag of choice is already a backpack, and the reason is pretty much to make the whole two hands free thing, more of a possibility. But still, sometimes one hand is all I got and I have two little kids hands to hold — so the math just doesn’t work.

So we developed this system/game, called “sandwich hands“. It’s basically exactly what you see, a sandwich of hands — I just call out “sandwich hands!” when I need two hands but only have one of my own to give. It’s only good for short distances (crossing the street, getting into subways, making your way through a small but dense crowd, etc) and it often results in some kiddo bickering (but really what doesn’t?) mostly about who get’s to be the cheese or the bread.

The next time you only have one free hand to hold (or maybe you have two free hands but need to hold 4 little hands?) try “sandwich hands”. PS. I went on a field trip with Harlow’s class the other day and sandwich hands, also worked like a charm with the kiddos I was taking care of.

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Over The Weekend

cherry-blossoms I’m on a bit of a Mother’s Day hangover, the entire weekend was just SO good. So while I try to get my butt back to reality, all while I try to get over a very minor case of creative burn out (this weekend was some pretty great medicine) here are some random pics from over the weekend. And oddly enough, none from actual Mother’s Day — that day was just too good, no photos were even taken (well there was probably some, somewhere). So here are a few from my iphone which are always more candid and in the moment.
We went to have a look-see at the High Park cherry blossoms, we were totally blown away by the crowds (plus the amount selfie sticks) and how silly I was to not remember just about how allergic spring time nature is to me and King.

jorts Jort season (or short season if that’s more your thing) decided to start this weekend, from winter right into summer — don’t ask, cause I don’t know either.

crowds This was a very light view of the crowd that came out to view the cherry blossoms. I was part way between being totally overwhelmed by the amount of people and totally in awe of the people watching potential.

family-photo Family picture, basically like an awkward family selfie but with feet (and not even full feet).

relaxing Her first time ever having those processed cheese bread stick dippers (well King too, but he was off throwing a ball around). I was totally eyeing it like no tomorrow, those disgusting things are my favorite and I thought it was due time they finally had a taste of yummy fake food. (my bag).
PS. they also had bubble gum for the first time this weekend, basically epic weekend in the littles books.

pretzel Not from the weekend, from the week but I love it. Those big and little loves, pretzel included.

Stop To Smell The Roses

stop to smell the roses It happens a couple of times a year, maybe even more? I can’t remember now. That feeling of things just not feeling like they fit, like my brain just can’t quite focus, that old burned out brain feeling. I know I am not the only one that gets that feeling from time to time (funny/not funny that it also coincides with allergy season?). This bogged down feeling tends to happen when you are constantly using your brain to churn out new content and you work totally alone — plus when you over think every tiny detail that goes into each item and every detail that follows, now that’s a recipe for a crispy brain burn out. And by you, I mean me.

I have big dreams for this space and other projects I am trying to get rolling, it seems whenever I feel like I am getting things moving, I get overwhelmed with my own thoughts and burrrrnnnn myself right out. Also since the kids both went off to school my content on the blog did a giant shift, at first it was totally unintentional when my daytime focus changed so did my content. I find the “cultivating a simple, stylish and content every day” focus (mostly general lifestyle stuff like usual, but that sounds way better), takes more from me in a different way and makes this whole working by myself at home all the time sometimes a little taxing. SO because I know this feeling is something that happens every so often I am trying my best to take this as a moment of improvement rather than a sad burn out moment (no violins).  A few things I am doing to make things feel like I’m back on track refreshed/recharged/kicked in the pants and ready to jump back in with a smile:

  • I am going to look at maybe renting a wee space inside of that bigger studio/warehouse (eeee!!!). Which feels pretty huge to me, a big step! And it will surely be a huge help to not always working on my lonesome, from my kitchen table.
  • Reach out for help more often, I just can’t do everything myself (even though I really like to try). I have an amazing network of friends and talented people, I need to use them more — but not in a use and abuse sorta way.
  • Take smaller steps towards my end goals, take my own advice and start smaller but START.
  • Stop and smell the roses, it’s okay if things are a tad quiet for a day or two — something I need to remind myself.
  • Focus on my consulting and contributing projects, I often find the best inspiration when I am helping others attain their goals and dreams — it’s empowering and totally gratifying.
  • Yoga, yoga, yoga and maybe a little more yoga then normal. Basically I plan to stay on  my everyday practice, but take things slower when I’m finished and try my best to take my yoga with me and into every single moment of my day.
  • Get the F outside and find some real inspiration, I mean it’s beautiful out there.

Do you get that brain burned out feeling every so often? What are some of the things you do to kick yourself out of it?