A few weeks ago, when I said I was working on a FAQ page (still working on it, btw) I asked if you guys had any more questions to add (it’s here if none of what I just said rings a bell). Well I received a few questions from that post, that were so good I felt they needed their very own posts (this was one of them), rather than a few lines of answers on a page filled with other questions and answers.
This specific question was good, it really made me think and then totally stumped me. See the internet is full of things you should do to live a healthy life, food you should be eating, exercises you should be doing, even down to the time of day you should be doing it all. And when I say “internet” I’m very much including myself, I am part of all that noise (hopefully it’s a sweet musical noise).
When I got the question: “how do I pull myself out of this funk, where do I start? Because I already know what to do to be better, but cannot get myself to jump in to do it and stick with it”.
I realized a huge part of the growing a well lived life “conversation” was missing. I also realized I didn’t have a great answer, mostly because pulling oneself out of a funk/staying on track is basically a dark grey area, what pulls me out of a funk might not pull you out of one. I felt like addressing the question, was important and I really wanted to try my best at answering it – so I asked three friends to help me, because my favorite advice is always real life advice. Three really good friends (that have 3 totally different lifestyles) that I totally adore and actually ask for advice on a regular basis, hopefully that equals in three totally different answers to give everyone something to grab at. So here it goes:
“How do I pull myself out of this funk, where do I start? I already know what to do to be better, but cannot get myself to jump in to do it and stick with it”.
Ashleigh (my best friend, mom of three, yoga teacher and yoga studio owner/ super woman)
Make the conscious choice to put yourself first. If your happy and taken care of, your family is way happier and taken care of as a result.”
Drea (my very good internet friend/favorite internet person, mom of one, online creator and cookbook author)
“Sounds crazy, but sometimes you just need to be like “I’m in a funk and thats okay.” I feel like sometimes it just takes a few moments of permission to feel whatever you are feeling, before you feel a bit of a weight lifted and can move forward again. Once that’s settles in, my next best advice is wash your hair and get outside. Even if the weather isn’t gorgeous or you still just don’t feel like it, get some fresh air. Once you step back inside (especially if you’re lucky enough to have cleaned your home), things feel a bit revived again. If that doesn’t work, go to bed and when you wake up, go outside again. Eventually it feels better, and the funk lifts.”
Dawn (my sister and all time favorite human, dog mom, crafting queen, snowboarding aficionado and instrumentation apprentice )
“I am not failing, if I am not perfect! Because there is no such thing as perfect anyways, I beat myself up when I don’t remind myself of this and failing to remind myself is actually the real failure.
Just showing up is an accomplishment, and one that you need to be smile and be proud about. I find that starting anything new, especially something uncomfortable or out of your ordinary is hard and sometimes (even though you know it’s supposed to be good for you) a total and utter drag. The small 30 day challenges, work great for me – once I get to 30 days it’s usually more of a habit and actually more of a drag to NOT do it.
Focus on one new thing (even really tiny) and do it for 30 days straight, then keep up with that and add another small thing for 30 days. Start small and celebrate the fact that you ‘showed up’ to do it, every time you do.
Is there anything you do to help yourself stay on track? Or to pull yourself outta a funk? Also, if you have a question or a topic you really want me (or just someone, anyone!) to cover you can always leave a comment and make a note (in said comment) telling me not to publish – somethings are better if they aren’t shouted out to the world, I get that. And I will do my very best to answer, or recruit knowledgeable others to help me!