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too-little-or-too-much1 too-little-or-too-much2 too-little-or-too-much3 *what a lazy morning looks like when Chris tries to rest “just” his eyes.

Blogging is funny and lifestyle blogging even funnier, it’s this really beautiful thing to be able to document and share love, likes and moments – and also a really strange thing to do for all those same reasons, to be honest. In the beginning it was easy, no one was reading so I just wrote (and not well at all, so don’t even think about going back to look) it took me a long time to find my voice and to feel comfortable with documenting. Then pretty much the same moment I started to feel comfortable, I suddenly realized others were reading and got a little self conscious. That balance of sharing too much or too little is something I struggle with often, and I think this is probably a line most people who share parts of themselves in open forums wrestle with. Being honest and just honestly myself is always my goal, I’ve never been a very skilled pretender (also see, worst actress ever). The too little/too much struggle, for me seems to grow as my readership grows (even in the little leaps) and maybe even a little more as my kids grow up and my content naturally shifts and changes.

I don’t always feel comfortable talking about how Chris and I have been arguing for a couple days, how Kingston has been pushing me past my patience limits with his 5 Year Old attitude, that the 9 loads of dirty laundry piled high makes me want to sob a little, how I’ve been struggling so hard with no personal space and it’s made me short tempered and actually a bit of a b****. Those moments are always there, they just don’t always make it here. As this space grows and I run into people in real world who read this blog, I get more self conscious of what I’m sharing. It’s truly a hard balance, to document and be real and not over share or embarrass – I want my kids (and myself) to look back on this space with pride, never with shame or embarrassment.

I don’t consider myself a writer at all (that wouldn’t be fair to writers), I consider myself a talker and a thinker. I write how I talk and think and when I’m feeling comfortable my talking and conversing is on point – and usually I am extremely comfortable talking on this space. I love sharing my thoughts, style, random rambles, our little life, my passions and just things I really dig. Sometimes my posts are short and sweet or even a little fluffy and sometimes they are a little longer but I always try my best to keep things real and never staged. I seem to pop in every few weeks with a dear diary post (what I usually call my rambles) that are honest and raw, they almost always leave me thinking about the too little/too much line obsessively usually all night with wide eyes. I always come back to the same conclusion, that the over thinking that comes with the too little or too much struggle is a really great one – it keeps me in check and honest with myself.

*I wrote this post a couple weeks back, that’s how it often goes with rambles – they sit in draft mode till I can work out my thoughts enough to make actual written sense. I wasn’t going to post, because I wasn’t sure it even had any sense to it – then I read this post by House of Habit and it really re-opened up a the whole thought process. And I came to the same conclusion, I’m happy to teeter on the line and sometimes have a few sleepless when I feel I’ve shared a tad too much it’s much better then the opposite of falling short or over sharing all the time.

What do you guys think? Do you struggle with this line when you are blogging or just posting on social media in general?

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· March 4, 2014 · in Daily,Dear Diary,Real Life


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Amber March 4, 2014 at 4:26 pm

This is so thoughtful and how much to share is so hard to determine. I think there are so many impersonal (newspapers), fake (movies and TV), and formal (books) outlets that people read/write blogs for something personal and real.


Heart and Habit March 6, 2014 at 8:34 pm

You are so right! It’s that balance, sometimes it feels much harder then others to find. Thank you!!


you March 4, 2014 at 5:04 pm

we’re the same person.


Brandy March 6, 2014 at 10:46 am

I struggle with the same thing. I don’t want to embarrass my family or put too much out there. But yet, everything and everyone seems to be an open book lately. I don’t want to appear "fake" either. So difficult!


Heart and Habit March 6, 2014 at 8:37 pm

As always it’s comforting to know others feel the same. Thank you for chiming in!


evelynephoto March 10, 2014 at 10:58 am

Definitely, I struggle with sharing anything period. I always think that no one would really care to read what I have to say :/ even though I love reading what others are going through… like this post!! I loved the photos & I love what you have to say.


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